YOUR KID IS HURTING, AND THAT’S SCARY
You’re looking for a therapist who knows their stuff. Give me a call and let’s see how I can help you help your kid.
Adolescence can be hard. You might notice your teen struggling with self-esteem, experiencing confusing and difficult to manage mood changes, or feeling overwhelmed by school or their relationships with others. Maybe you’re worried that your teen is trying to cope with these challenges by overdoing it with drinking or drugs. Perhaps you are seeing other risky behaviors.
IS THIS NORMAL?
It is normal for teens to go through big changes. It’s also normal for them to seek some distance (independence) from the adults in their lives. So how can you be sure that they are getting healthy support and feedback regarding the decisions they make on a day to day basis?
THERAPY CAN HELP
I like to meet with parent(s) or guardian(s) for an intake prior to meeting the teen. At this meeting, we can talk openly about any concerns you may have and I can answer questions regarding how I can help. Many parents find that the feedback and guidance they receive in this initial session results in a shift in their own responses to their teen’s issues. For example, you may learn that the guidance you are providing for your teen is being seen by them as nagging or criticism. This is not your fault! But you do need to find alternative ways of connecting with your teen. Perhaps they need some space to figure some things out on their own? Or maybe they want to share things with you, but are worried that when they do, they will get a lecture. Let me help you (and them) sort it out.
At our initial session, it will be just you (and your partner, spouse, co-parent, if applicable) and me. We’ll talk about what’s going on from your perspective, and I will get background information on you, your family, and your child. In this session I will make suggestions you can use with your kid TODAY even before your kid sees me – so that we can get change happening asap.
The next session will be for me to meet with your child. Don’t worry, if your child is on the shy or anxious side, we can all meet together until they are more comfortable with me and the therapy setting. I will get to observe your child’s strengths and challenges by talking and playing with them. Most of the time I can get a pretty good sense in the first two sessions of what’s going on and what might help.
With the younger kids, I like to work with them individually as well as with their parent(s) in the room. I also find it really helpful to meet with parent(s) on their own on a regular basis to get on the same page regarding what goals we are working on and how to reach those goals.
IT ALL STARTS WITH A 10 – 15 MINUTE CALL
A 10-15 minute phone conversation (at no cost to you) should be all it takes to see whether I am a good match for your needs. (If I’m not, I promise I will help you find someone who does.)
I’M THE RIGHT THERAPIST FOR YOUR FAMILY IF:
- You are ready for change – even when this includes things you can do differently in order to best support your child.
- You want to be treated without judgement or shame.
- You want someone who has been there and done that – someone with lots of experience helping families.
- You recognize that everyone has strengths and challenges – you’re interested in finding ways to optimize your child’s strengths while acknowledging existing challenges.
- You understand that every kid is different and that there are different ways of reaching different kids.
- You recognize that one’s mental/emotional wellness may sometimes take priority over school. Kids do best in school when they are emotionally stable and there may be a need to focus on wellness and de-emphasize the importance of school when there are emotional or behavioral problems. Health comes first!
- You know there isn’t one “right” way to parent. Rather there are values you hold for your family; you want your parenting to be in alignment with these values.